Relationships

Hardship will show you who your real friends are. That's for sure. Can you read the quote once more? "Don't eat with people you wouldn't starve with."

You think there's ever going to be a day when you walk away from podcasting? Definitely. I came up within and then on the periphery of skateboard culture. And for the record, I was not a great skateboarder. I always have to say that because skateboarders are relentless if you call something you didn't do or whatever. I could do a few things and I loved the community and I still have a lot of friends in that community. Jim Thiebaud at Deluxe, you can look him up. He's the man behind the whole scene. I know Tony Hawk, Danny Way, these guys. I got to see them come up and get big and stay big in many cases, start huge companies like Danny and Colin McKay's or DC. Some people have a long life in something, some don't. But one thing I observed and learned a lot from skateboarding at the level of observing the skateboarders and then the ones that started companies, and then what I also observed in science and still observe is you do it for a while, you do it at the highest possible level for you, and then at some point, you pivot and you start supporting the young talent coming in.

That's the Rick Rubin thing. You got to verb it through, download your inner thing. I don't think we've talked about this, this obsession that I have about how Rick has this way of being very, very still in his body, but keeping his mind very active as a practice. Went and spent some time with him in Italy last June, and we would tread water in his pool in the morning and listen to A History of Rock and Roll in a Hundred Songs. Amazing podcast, by the way. It is.

Oh yeah, I saw that. What happened? There's a bunch of drama around an episode you did on cannabis. Yeah, we did an episode about cannabis, talked about the health benefits and the potential risks. It's neither here nor there. It depends on the person, depends on the age, depends on genetic background, a number of other things. We published that episode well over a year ago and it had no issues online, so to speak. And then a clip of it was put to X, where the real action occurs as you know, your favorite [inaudible 00:11:13].

Bringing it back. You said that your conversation with James Hollis, a Jungian psychoanalyst had a big impact on you. What do you mean? James Hollis is a 84-year-old Jungian psychoanalyst who's written 17 books including Under Saturn's Shadow, which is on the healing and trauma of men, the Eden Project, excuse me, which is about relationships and creating a life. I discovered James Hollis in an online lecture that was recorded I think in San Diego. It's on YouTube. The audio is terrible, called Creating a Life. And this was somewhere in the 2011 to 2015 span, I can't remember. And I was on my way to Europe and I called my girlfriend at the time. I was like, "I just found the most incredible lecture I've ever heard." And he talks about the shadow. He talks about your developmental upbringing and how you either align with or go 180 degrees off your parents' tendencies and values in certain areas. He talked about the specific questions to ask of oneself at different stages of life to live a full life.

The optimization of everything. Yeah. Although he just hurt his ankle. He posted a photo that he hurt his ankle so now he's injecting BPC, Body Protection Compound 157, which many, many people are taking by the way. I did an episode on peptides. I should just say, BPC 157, one of the known effects in animal models is angiogenesis like development of new vasculature which can be great in some context. But also, if you have a tumor, you don't really want to vascularize that tumor anymore. So I worry about people taking BPC 157 continually and there's very little human data. I think there's one study and it's a lousy one, so a lot of animal data.

We're not talking about I'm smoking, vaping, dipping, or snuffing. My interest in nicotine started... This was in 2010, I was visiting Columbia Medical School and I was in the office of the great neurobiologist, Richard Axel. Won the Nobel Prize, co-recipient with Linda Buck, for the discovery of the molecular basis of olfaction. Brilliant guy. He's probably in his late 70s now. Probably.

For me, the caffeine is the main thing. Actually, it's a really big part of my life. One of the things you recommend, that people wait a bit in the morning to consume caffeine. If they experience a crash in the afternoon. This is one of the misconceptions. I regret maybe even discussing it. For people that crash in the afternoon, oftentimes, if they delay their caffeine by 60 and 90 minutes in the morning, they will offset some of that. But if you eat a lunch that's too big or you didn't sleep well the night before, you're not going to avoid that afternoon crash. But I'll wake up sometimes and go straight to hydration and caffeine, especially if going to workout. Here's a weird one. If I exercise before 8:30 AM especially if I start exercising when I'm a little bit tired, I get energy that lasts all day. If I wait until my peak of energy which is mid-morning, 10:00 AM, 11:00 AM, and I start exercising then, I'm basically exhausted all afternoon. I don't understand why. I mean, it depends on the intensity of the workout but... So I like to be done, showered, and heading into work by 9:00 AM but I don't always meet that mark.

Listen to Jocko thing. And then, there's this phenomenon called entrainment where if you force yourself to exercise or eat or socialize or view bright light at a certain time of day for three to seven days in a row, pretty soon there's an anticipatory circuit that gets generated. This is why anyone, in theory, can become a morning person to some degree or another. This is also a beautiful example of why you wake up before your alarm clock goes off. People wake up and all of a sudden it goes off, it wasn't because it clicked. It's because you have this incredible timekeeping mechanism that exists in sleep. There's some papers that have been published in the last couple of years, Nature Neuroscience and elsewhere, showing that people can answer math problems in their sleep. Simple math problems but math problems nonetheless. This does not mean that if you ask your partner a question in sleep, that they're going to answer accurately. They might screw up the whole cumulative probability of 20% across multiple months.

Speaking of which, how are you going to vote for the presidential election? I'm still trying to figure out how to interview the people involved and do it well.

I realized everything we bring up on the screen is really- Dark.

See, this is the difference between Russian Americans and Americans. It's like maybe this is actually a good time to bring up your ayahuasca journey. I've never done ayahuasca, but I'm curious about it. I'm also curious about ibogaine, iboga, but you told me that you did ayahuasca and that for you, it wasn't the dark, scary ride that it is for everybody else. Yeah, it was an incredible experience for me. I did it twice actually.

So amidst all that, you still have to get shit done. I've been really obsessed with tracking time recently, making sure I have daily activities. I have habits that I'm maintaining, and I'm very religious about making sure I get shit done. Do you use an app or something like that?

Right, and I was clothed. Thank you for clarifying. I wasn't, which is very weird. Yeah, yeah, the friends you surround yourself with, that's another thing. I understood that from ayahuasca and from just the experience in the jungle, is just select the people. Just be careful how you allocate your time. I just saw somewhere, Conor McGregor has this good line, I wrote it down, about loyalty. He said, "Don't eat with people you wouldn't starve with." That guy is, he's big on loyalty. All the shit talk, all of that, set that aside. To me, loyalty is really big, because then if you invest in certain people in your life and they stick by you and you stick by them, what else is life about?